Comments on: Lost In the Mirror Chap 1-10 http://www.bulletproofsoul.info/2007/11/03/lost-in-the-mirror-chap-1-10/ it's all about soul <a href="http://www.podshow.com/"> Podshow PDN </a> {podshow-9cd789429a2a18335183b98506c34570} Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:11:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bulletproof Soul http://www.bulletproofsoul.info/2007/11/03/lost-in-the-mirror-chap-1-10/comment-page-1/#comment-21924 Bulletproof Soul Sun, 04 Nov 2007 04:29:22 +0000 http://www.bulletproofsoul.info/2007/11/03/lost-in-the-mirror-chap-1-10/#comment-21924 It's nice to hear from someone else who has read this book. I appreciate your comment Gisele. I also appreciate that you read this blog on a regular basis. You don't know what that means to me.' That statement is utterly true, though...once left you lose yourself. I have left so many times so that I could retain a piece of ME instead of letting it wash away in the flood of emotion that follows. It’s nice to hear from someone else who has read this book. I appreciate your comment Gisele. I also appreciate that you read this blog on a regular basis. You don’t know what that means to me.’

That statement is utterly true, though…once left you lose yourself. I have left so many times so that I could retain a piece of ME instead of letting it wash away in the flood of emotion that follows.

]]> By: gisele http://www.bulletproofsoul.info/2007/11/03/lost-in-the-mirror-chap-1-10/comment-page-1/#comment-21849 gisele Sat, 03 Nov 2007 14:22:20 +0000 http://www.bulletproofsoul.info/2007/11/03/lost-in-the-mirror-chap-1-10/#comment-21849 Great post. I have read the book as well and like most BPD books I read, I highlight and comment in the margins and then blog about them. As I have written on my site, I read all these books when first diagnosed and I think my response was mostly negative to a lot of them. But this is one I remember liking. My favorite is still Borderline Disorder Demystified, which I think is the best BPD book out there as it is hopeful and treats us respectfully as people. Good, decent people who just happen to have a complex condition. Anyway, wanted to say I relate to this post. I am not married and relationships terrify me after having been so clingy and messing them up always. But I also have deferred to whomever I was dating. I don't know if it was fear of abandonment (I suspect that played a big part) plus also that I deferred to someone else b/c well, they are better at this than me, and they love me, so I will "be a good girl" do what they want and then they will still love me. (stupid childhood issues!) I read once a very harsh yet enlightening statement that said that often in relationships, If the person with BPD is left by their partner, it's like they cease to exist. We define ourselves so much by others when we have so much difficulty getting to know who WE are. Man, I always write too much. That's why I say I am a much better editor of others' work that I am my own! Anyway, I read your site every time you post and it is great to hear from someone else getting through this. best to you, gisele Great post. I have read the book as well and like most BPD books I read, I highlight and comment in the margins and then blog about them. As I have written on my site, I read all these books when first diagnosed and I think my response was mostly negative to a lot of them. But this is one I remember liking. My favorite is still Borderline Disorder Demystified, which I think is the best BPD book out there as it is hopeful and treats us respectfully as people. Good, decent people who just happen to have a complex condition.

Anyway, wanted to say I relate to this post. I am not married and relationships terrify me after having been so clingy and messing them up always. But I also have deferred to whomever I was dating. I don’t know if it was fear of abandonment (I suspect that played a big part) plus also that I deferred to someone else b/c well, they are better at this than me, and they love me, so I will “be a good girl” do what they want and then they will still love me. (stupid childhood issues!) I read once a very harsh yet enlightening statement that said that often in relationships, If the person with BPD is left by their partner, it’s like they cease to exist. We define ourselves so much by others when we have so much difficulty getting to know who WE are.

Man, I always write too much. That’s why I say I am a much better editor of others’ work that I am my own! Anyway, I read your site every time you post and it is great to hear from someone else getting through this.

best to you,
gisele

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